Power Acronym 202: A.L.E.C. (R U OK?)
How to Ask “R U OK?” (with help from Australia)
I was recently introduced to Movember, a global men’s health movement that uses mustaches, movement, and conversation to raise awareness and funds for prostate cancer, testicular cancer, mental health, and suicide prevention. Funds go toward research, early detection, treatment, and community programs worldwide. (Learn more at Movember.)
While exploring Movember resources, I came across an Australian organization called R U OK? They exist to help everyday people check in on friends, coworkers, and loved ones who might be struggling—and to keep those conversations going. Their simple message: “A conversation could change a life.”
They also share a framework I’m officially welcoming into the Power Acronym family:
A.L.E.C.
Ask – Listen – Encourage Action – Check In
(Developed by R U OK? and shared here with appreciation and attribution.)
This one hits close to home for me. I’ve worked with two different men who later took their own lives. And many of us are still reeling from the recent loss of Dallas Cowboys defensive end Marshawn Kneeland, a sobering reminder that pain can be hidden behind talent, success, and a public platform.
A.L.E.C. gives us a way to show up:
A — Ask
Start the conversation.
In the U.S., that might sound like:
“Hey, how are you doing—really?”
“I’ve noticed you seem a bit off lately. How’s everything going?”
The goal isn’t a perfect script; it’s a real, caring question.
L — Listen
Give them space.
Listen without fixing, preaching, or comparing.
Let them finish. Ask gentle follow-ups. Take them seriously.
E — Encourage Action
If they open up, help them think about a next step: talking to a trusted friend or pastor, booking with a counselor, texting a helpline, going for a walk together—something that moves them toward support.
C — Check In
Don’t let it be a one-time moment.
Circle back. A simple “Been thinking about you. How are you today?” shows you meant what you said.
If you’d like to go deeper into A.L.E.C., conversation examples, and professional guidance, head straight to the source at R U OK? (ruok.org.au)—they’ve built excellent resources, and I’m grateful for their work.
Power Acronym exists to encourage, enrich, and empower you—and A.L.E.C. is a clear example of that calling in action. When we learn simple, practical tools like this and actually use them, we don’t just remember an acronym; we help someone stay.
If you’re struggling or worried about someone’s immediate safety, please don’t handle it alone. In the U.S., you can call or text 988 or use the chat at 988lifeline.org for support right now.
In Longview and much of East Texas, Community Healthcore’s 24/7 Crisis Line (800-832-1009) connects you with local crisis and mobile response teams.